I love desire. I am a desire chaser the way some people chase storms. And we all know that people who chase storms, sometimes get caught in the hurricane. It's a risk that they take. But they still chase storms. It can be that way with desire too. Desire's can come with a price tag. But don't be frightened of price tags! Just know that they exist. Too many people work so very hard at avoiding their desires, because of their fear of the costs. But to me, to have a big beautiful burning desire, and to bury it is the biggest cost of all. It's a trap to believe that once we get our heart's desire that this is where I trouble will begin. I don't buy that. What I do believe that we all have a heart's desire. Many of us have more than one. It's a dream perhaps, or some kind of prize that we hope to one day have in our lives. The women I talk to have desires around connecting to their bodies in a deeper and more fuller way. They want to play again in their lives. They want to not only uncover their desires, name their desires, but to experience them. And not all of them do. Why not?
Perhaps the price is too high, and they are looking for a bargain. You know, how to get your desire with double coupons or at a flea sale. And for others, they are willing to sell one's soul to the devil to get what they really want.
Sometimes, when we go exploring our desires we may find out that our lives just as we have them isn't quite right anymore. We may have outgrown our marriages, or friendships. If we go looking for what in our heart calls us, we may leave behind what was once so very precious. That's a pretty scary risk isn't it? Kinda like selling your soul? Reaching for those desires have a pretty hefty cost. But what about not reaching for your desires? That can be really expensive too.
If you stay where you are; tamped down, numb and perhaps very anger that is a different kind of selling of our souls - isn't it?
Rarely does anything worth happen come for free. And sometimes the price tag is not as dramatic as selling your soul or making a decision to leave your own backyard to find it.
Sometimes, to find our desires we need to put aside time and money. We need to share ourselves with our loved ones and let them in on what our desires are. We have to be willing to put ourselves first.
This is what I have learned in my life as a committed desire seeker.
1. You have to be willing to reach with a full heart for your desires.
2. You often have to let go of the past, after you have tasted and rolled around in your desires.
3. Fulfilled desires often do bring change and while change can be momentarily uncomfortable, it can also be amazing.
4. Your body can hold way more desire fulfilled that you can imagine.
If you can restrain your desires, put them aside and ignore them - maybe the desire is not great enough. Understanding your desires, and deciding which desires should have your focus is a key.
Go on. Take on your desire. Just check the price tag, and decide that you are worth it.
